Making a great first impression is imperative to becoming an Ultimate Conversationalist
You’ve heard it said that you never get a second chance to make a good first impression. The fact is that when you first meet a person, he makes a judgment about you in approximately four seconds, and his judgment is finalized largely within 30 seconds of the initial contact. In a survey of the members of the American Personnel Consultants¾ those men and women who are responsible for hiring people for large companies¾members generally agreed that they made their decision to hire or not to hire a person within 30 seconds of the first meeting. And not only does this apply for big companies. It also applies in about any other human interaction you will ever find yourself in. People will judge you based on their first impression in about 30 seconds or less.
But even though we want to give that “Lasting First Impression” there are times that we make the worst mistakes that will definitely ruin our chance of giving off a fantastic first Impression! But what are those mistakes?
It all has to do with Body Language. But what is Body Language?
The difference between the words people speak and our understanding of what they are saying comes from non-verbal communication, otherwise known as “body language.” By developing your awareness of the signs and signals of body language, you can more easily understand other people, and more effectively communicate with them.
After learning the definition of body language lets find out what are those body language mistakes that we might do during conversation so we can completely eradicate it from ourselves!
14 Worst Body Language Mistakes
Holding Objects in Front of Your Body – a coffee cup, notebook, or even a hand bag. When you begin to hold objects in front of your body you are clearly indicating shyness and resistance. And that you prefer hiding behind the objects in an effort to separate yourself from others. Instead of carrying objects in front of you, carry them at your side whenever possible.
Checking the Time or Inspecting Your Fingernails – You tell the person without words that you are super bored. Never glance at the time when you’re speaking with someone. They will feel that you are rude and have no manners. Likewise, completely avoid the act of inspecting your fingernails.
Crossing Your Arms – another sign of defensive resistance. Some people who you may encounter might interpret it as a sign of egotism. Always try to keep your arms open and at your sides.
Scratching at the Backside of Your Head and Neck – a clear sign of doubt and uncertainty. It also has been proven that a many liars will scratch their head or neck so if you do this folks will immediately think that you are also lying.Try to keep your hands away from your head when communicating.
Messing With the Collar of Your Shirt – It screams: “I feel horribly uncomfortable and/or nervous!” Once again, keep track of your hands. Don’t fidget.
Slouching Your Shoulders – people immediately will know that you have low self-esteem. Society associates perked-up shoulders with strong self-confidence. Always pull your shoulders back. Not only will you look more confident, you’ll feel more confident as well.
Sitting on the Edge of Your Chair – a clear indication of being mentally and physically uncomfortable. It’s an apprehensive stance that will make others around you feel uncomfortable as well. Keep your rear end firmly planted on the surface of the seat. When you lean forward, use your back without moving your bottom.
Foot and Finger Tapping – usually indicates stress, impatience or boredom. Monitor your habits and practice keeping your limbs at rest.
Using Your Hands to Fidget with Small Objects – a pen, paper ball, etc. This is another sign of anxiety. It can also be interpreted as a lack of preparedness especially at a meeting or even at school . It’s always best to keep your hands comfortably at rest when you’re in the presence of others.
Not Directly Facing the Person You’re Speaking To – This indicates a certain level of discomfort or a lack of interest. When we’re happily engaged in a conversation we face the person we’re speaking to with our feet and torso facing directly forward. When we’re unsure of the other person, or not completely committed to the conversation, we tend to angle our feet and torso to the side. Face directly forward during a conversation to give off the impression that you’re truly interested in what the other person is saying.
Touching Your Face During a Conversation – Face touching, especially on the nose, is commonly interpreted as another clue of deception. Also, covering up the mouth is a common gesture people make when they’re lying. Always keep your hands away from your face when you’re speaking.
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