3. Dress to Kill
Another FANTASTIC way to build your inner confidence is by dressing well or in other words just dress to kill.
I mean you don’t have to look like Brad Pitt or Jennifer Anniston to start building your self-confidence.(And you dont always have to be dressed up in suits or blouses and skirts) But If you want to feel better about who you are and how you look, then take care of yourself by showering daily, brushing your teeth, wearing well-fitting clothes, and making sure that you’ve taken time with your appearance. Sounds basic but you be surprised by how many folks don’t even brush their own teeth well?
If you just rush out of the house without putting the effort to look at least decent then how in the world do you expect to become a better conversationalist with lots of confidence when you don’t even feel or look good? Its going to be much harder to have the confidence to speak to new people or even succeed in conversation. (The only excuse I could see is that your house was on fire and you left with anything that you had on to save yourself. But other than that there is no acceptable reason) This doesn’t mean that superficial looks or style will make you feel more confident, but making an effort to mind your looks tells yourself that you’re worth caring about.
Remember im not saying to buy all the expensive clothes at the mall, im not saying that at all. Just look nice and appropriate depending on the situation and with just trying a bit you will feel much better about yourself and your confidence will begin to grow.
Sounds too good to be true? It might! But these are those rare times where the truth is that simple. Can you really gain confidence by dressing well? Of Course!!
A very interesting excerpt from an article at calmclinic.com stated very interesting facts and showed us why dressing poorly is not recommended at all. “Dressing thoughtlessly because you don’t feel motivated to make an effort with your appearance, ……………..can lead to stressful relations with others. Friends may avoid you, coworkers or strangers may talk about you behind your back, and you may even be fired from your job. These can lead to feelings of rejection and paranoia, which can easily build into anxiety and panic.
Do you want Anxiety, Paranoia, People talking bad behind your back, Stressful Relations, Get Fired, Fail at Conversations and have no Confidence?
4. Never, Never, Never Compare Yourself To Others!!!
If You Begin To Apply This Today, Your Inner Confidence Will Begin To Grow Today!
This sounds obvious but sadly too many of us in our mind wander off and just begin to compare ourself to others. f you want to build your self-confidence, then you have to focus on improving your own life for the better, not on making your life more like your best friend’s, your older brother’s, or like those of the celebrities you see on television.
You are you, do not try to copy someone else because there will always be people who appreciate for who you are as a person. It’s that simple! But if we just continue to compare ourself with anyone then we will never get confidence and use it to help us become better conversationalist so we can improve our conversation or social skills. People can tell if you’re not confident and if they can see it then you most likely will not get what you want. You might not get that job, not get that girls phone number, not get that guy’s attention, not give a good impression to your future boss and so much more and why? because you had no confidence because all you were doing was comparing yourself to other people you wish you were. What a huge mistake!
Just love who you are because there will be many people who will want you and accept the way you are. Just get that confidence and it will take you far!
Lets Recap: To Gain Confidence you Must
- Be Around Confident People
- Psych Yourself up 1000%
- Dress To kill
- Never, Never, Never Compare Yourself to Others
Remember these four steps and you will go far in any aspect of life!
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