Have you ever felt that when you meet someone for the first time you have to be careful with what you say? Many of us have probably felt this. We feel this because we dont know how this person is. We just met them and we dont know how they will react to certain jokes or even topics. They could be serious or even out going. The possiblities are endless. So thats why in the first conversation you should really try to see or find out how they really are. But how can one find out? Can you just ask? Of course you can, but it will sound weird and the perosn might then feel uncomfortable and if that occurs the conversation could begin to rott. You want to make them feel comfortable and the communication should keep progressing. Becuase if you ask someone:
Please can you tell me if your outgoing or strict or funny or just a pessimistic?
See how wrong it would be to ask and how stupid you would sound.
So i have come up with a quick way of seeing what kind of perosn you are dealing with.
Lets say Im engaged deeply in a conversation with some new chick. Her name is Genesis. So in the middle of the conversation I would say the following lines:
Hey Genesis let me ask you a question? Dont get angry but I have to ask you this personal question. (Then you take a deep breath and you wait a few seconds) Then you slowly say……What…kind of shampoo do you use?
Now after you ask this question you could either get two responses.
1) A laughter/Smile
2) A puzzled/serious look
Now if you get the first response then you know that you are dealing with someone who has at least some kind of sense of humor or they are just in a good mood. Becuase this line that you will be saying is just a straight up ,goofy line. If they have a positive response they have some qualities of goofiness and they have build rapport with you so far.
But if you get the second response it shows you that your dealing with a serious, strict person. Or even maybe that person is just having a terrible day and they are not up to any type of jokes.
But once you use this line you can see how their personality is strucutred. So go out and use it and most of the time it will work with whom ever you begin to talk to.
And my question to you guys is what did you guys think about this article? Please leave a comment. Thank you.
(c) 2014 Aurus Sanchez
Categories: Secrets to conversation