Now the other important half is something we do hopefully everyday because if we don’t, then we should really start to do it. It something called “Showing off your smile”. Just smile. Smile and smile and just a little more. But why smile? First of all, the smile is the “the symbol that was rated with the highest positive emotional content” said scientist Andrew Newberg.
Smiling reduces stress that your body and mind feels like brand new. And smiling helps to generate more positive emotions within you. That’s why we often feel happier around children they smile more. On average, they do so 400 times a day. While happy people still smile 40-50 times a day, the average of us only does so 20 times.
Why all of this info?
Because I want everyone to understand how important smiling is. Do not take it lightly. It can change many things. But how can we incorporate a smile in daily conversations with strangers? When someone randomly comes up to you, what’s your first reaction? Your first reaction is to ask yourself what do they want? This is the first thing in your head. You might even put your hand in your back pocket just in case you need quick access to the pistol or Swiss army knife. But overall we get worried. But why?
Well, not too long ago I read a book called “How to Work a Room” written by Susan Roane. Such a fantastic paperback book that teaches how to make lasting connections in person and online. And in chapter 2 she talks about how when we were children our parents warned us not to speak with strangers. And it was constantly reminded to us in our childhood that now; in our subconscious we have that imaginary finger telling us to be careful with strangers. But now we have to ignore that message because we can be missing out of social or business opportunities.
When you have a chance go and purchase this great book and with along mine not only will you make lasting connections but be the best fun conversationalist there is.
Again smile and smile. You must smile especially because when you first talk to someone and they think, who is this person their inner guard is really high. They don’t know you. You can be a rapist, Nazi or even someone who kidnaps people in order to sell their body parts. So how can you lower someone’s guard? You can do it by smiling. Smiling is as powerful as you cats litter box. When you smile at someone in the beginning of the conversation you are being nice and friendly. When the other person sees this they tend to relax a bit.
They begin to relax even more once the ice is broken and if both people have things in common then all nerves fly away back home. But again your smile lowers the other person guard. You want to accomplish this! If you do your off a great start. Now if you don’t smile and just begin talking you are going to look either very Mean orCatty. People do not warm up to or even bond with people with these types of attitudes. I don’t want to be near people who act like this and I definitely know you don’t want to neither.
Negative attitude brings you down and then you are going to feel all gloomy. Once you feel gloomy you might do the same and if it keeps happening we are going to have the “Gloom Plague”. In this plague no smiles exist anymore. I rather not live or go through something like that.
So now that you have the proper knowledge of confident eye contact and smiling all you need to do is remember and practice it. Remember you can always look back in the chapter and highlight or even make notes. You can do it. I have faith in you. But now here comes the super fried juicy techniques you guys really want to learn. The ways that you can approach anyone and strike up a conversation like a BOSS!
And my question to you guys is what did you guys think about this article? Please leave a comment. Thank you.
(c) 2014 Aurus Sanchez
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